Connecting our poverty

I love marriage counseling, I really do. But I’ve learned that it’s best to enter into it with a disclaimer to couples. Something along the lines of: “This process will be one of the most difficult things you have ever done. At some point, you will want to give up. Things will probably get worse […]

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Lessons from Abby: Part 1

Our youngest daughter is going to change the world. I’m not quite sure how she is going to do this, but I am 100% certain it will happen. I know this because she has been given the uncanny ability to see straight into people’s hearts. It’s actually pretty remarkable, and sometimes unnerving. Because she is […]

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Looking back with gratefulness

One life practice I try to implement is intentional “looking back,” and reflecting on the perfection that is God’s timing. It’s actually the way I choose to end a counseling relationship with clients as well. I love witnessing the moment when people realize that God was literally with them in the storm, it’s definitely a […]

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Giggles and fingernail marks

Our daughters are the very best of friends, they play make believe, jump all over the furniture and erect forts whenever and wherever possible. This past week was back-to-school, which meant separation from one another for most of the day. On Friday afternoon, they ran upstairs giggling and playing all along the way. I didn’t […]

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A Sealed Downpayment: Part I

Confession: I have not been in The Word much lately, my early mornings have been filled with interior design, and material selection for our new house project. Yes, I have been productive in some ways, but you know as well as I do, that neglecting the Living Word will leave us in shallow waters, or […]

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Much more than a teacher

I was 16 when my grandmother died. I’ve written in this space before about that overwhelming grief, but a specific memory came to mind this morning, that I hadn’t thought too much of, until now. The night of my grandmother’s visitation, the line was quite literally out the door. There was no denying the profound […]

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Two types of counseling clients

I have only been counseling professionally for four years. I have been counseling professionally for four years. My point is this: I by no means believe that I’m ready to hang up my hat and stop learning, but at the same time, I feel rooted in my calling and in my ability to counsel. Ok, […]

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Learning to abide with my secret friend

In order to complete my graduate degree in counseling, I was required to attend 26  sessions with my own professional counselor. At the time, this seemed like an unnecessary, and inconvenient pill to swallow. After all, I had just given birth to our first child, my husband and I had only been married for a year, […]

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Well done

As her hand hit the side of the pool, my thumb hit the stop button on the timer. Before she rose up out of the water, I could see her smiling with joy and excitement! I will never forgot that smile and those eyes, as she looked up at me with great expectation, “Mommy, how […]

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Touched

I once spent the better part of a counseling session rubbing lotion on my clients arms and hands. Before you report me to the licensing board, please allow me to explain. My client was 87, suffering from dementia, and resided in an assisted living center. As the months passed by, she and I grew very […]

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